Negative Space - Wide Eyed Legless


The word negative typically means just that. Something down in the dumps, a glass half full kind of deal. So when you hear the phrase “negative space” it can be tricky to understand what it is actually implying.

In the art world, negative space is a phrase used to describe the blank space in and around the main subject, which typically is every bit as crucial (if not more so) then the main subject itself. The negative space allows us to see the non-negative space in all its color, beauty, mystery and light.

Now that doesn’t sound the least bit negative, does it?

Personally, I spent much of this past year being terrified of the unknown and fully afraidĀ of the negative space in my own life, so to say. I was stepping into untouched territory: newly divorced, financially independent, and while I was surrounded by blossoming new relationships and friends and family full of love and support, I felt terrified to embrace the idea that the life I thought I wanted, was no longer the life I had at all.

Fast forward to a day last month, while walking through the modern art museum in San Francisco, I had this thought: what if I could release the “plan” I had for my life, and truly embrace this season of the unknown. What if overnight, the idea of a life of change could feel less paralyzing and instead more exhilarating and renewing. Or, What if I approached this season as a chance to chase my dreams, build what I have always dreamed of, and learn to love myself and others more deeply then I ever have before.

What if I could simply choose to let go of the desire I felt for the things and relationships that
were no longer present in my life.

Hear me out: If life is a painting, then change and the unknown is the negative space. There will always be negative space, some seasons more so than others. But by choosing to let go, move forward and embrace the seasons of change in our own lives. We are choosing to embrace and truly see the beauty surrounding us in our every day.

By acknowledging this absence I was able to see and feel something clearly for the very first time: What isn’t there, gives more meaning to what is.


For any of you that feel like you are in a similar place, I suggest reading this book. It has been a great comfort to me through these past few months.